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When I hear all these grown-ups talking about how fornication, masturbation and premarital sex are all sins no matter what; I sometimes wonder if the people who preach those things are Christians who never had a problem getting a date during adolescence and married in their early 20’s … and therefore never felt true sexual frustration.

I also wonder if these people think of "single" as only unmarried. The so-called ’single christian’ advices are usually aimed at people who are already dating.

But do they ever stop to think about the Christian who simply has not dated ?

What is their advice for these people ? Just wait ? It will happen eventually.

Well, I will tell you what. The only thing "absolutely not masturbating" while one remains completely single causes is – jealousy.

And In my mind, jealousy is a more dangerous sin than all others combined.

I want to hear you. What do you say to the young adult Christian, who has not been blessed with marriage or a dating partner ?
Here’s simple prayer :

"Lord help me to make a good impression of myself when I meet new people"

Every time I find myself in a new situation with new people I pray for this. Yet the only thing i succeed in is embarrassing myself.

I cannot go straight from being single to being married. I know that I have to date first.

All I wish from the Lord is that he help me not to make such a bad impression of myself when i meet new people (especially new women).

It is a rather simple prayer

I cannot even give younger teens advice, because I have no experience from which to draw it from.

Don’t be a hypocrite like them who preach.
Don’t be a snob.
Respect other people’s belief in God.
Don’t allow religion to tamper with your judgments.

I have been dating this guy for about a year. God has honestly told me that i dont need to be in a relationship with a guy right now and says i need to end it. I want to marry this guy i LOVE him to death and i want him to wait for me until God says its okayy to start dating, But that seems so selfish and i dont know what to do. I really dont want to break up with him and im just scared because i know im not listening to God. What do i do?

You are so right that it is selfish of you to ask him to wait around for you. Maybe you should talk to your minister or his wife and see what they might advise you to do.Are you sure it was God that told you that ? Why would God not want two nice Christian people to be together ? Sounds like maybe the Guy from down below might have a hand in this.Talk to you minister.He or she will know best for you and your boyfriend.

I’m in highschool. There is this guy that I’ve liked for a while and we chat on facebook every night. He is really nice, and fun to talk to. Well I’ve really started to like him… but last night I went to his profile, and it said he was an atheist!!!!!! I’m a Christian and I know that I should only date christians….. so I freaked. What do I do? I stop liking him right? We talk every single night. so if i stop talking to him…….. that would seem…. odd. Because he is all: i love talking to you. Idk what to do. Please Help.

Well I’ve dated a guy who was an atheist and it bothered me. I could never get serious about him. It would cause problems in a marriage with children. But you are in school and not at that point in your life. Some people feel funny about their faith and put stuff like that on facebook. They also are not convinced and are confused about their beliefs. Still talk to him, be friends, ask him about that. Maybe this is a chance to help someone who is questioning their faith.

Okay heres the story. The girl that i’m quarting brother has been a main topic lately of us. I’ll start with, he plays worship for church nearly every sunday, and always has to get involved biblically in a conversation wiht a elderly christian. When we went to a friends house, he volunteered himself to play guitar to at first, play worship songs, but ended up playing his own songs and talking about them.And every time theirs a worship circle, he has to join.
Now he sounds good, but he also is dating a non christian girl, whom he sneaks out with nearly every day from school and from chores without his parents permisssion. when with his other friends, he swears, smokes cigs(without his parents knowing), and very so often drinks. He even gloated to me and other friends about when they went to isreal for a MISSION TRIP, he smoke pot with some russian soldiers. And one friend had pics of him drinking with them. He is very rebellios to his parents. He is underaged. His parents don’t know what to do with him. And my concern with him and my question, is why does he act one way around others, then comes back to be this god boy only to go back to his ways. Oh… im not sure he has repented for most of these, cause he still hides and does things his parents don’t know about. And the girl he is dating, he has cussed out me, his sisters, and his parents, because they did nothing but wonder where he was one night. Me and my gf have talked to him personally, it has not worked, and his parents have talked to him, and it hasn’t worked. I do not appreciate him leading worship, while he still acts the way he does off the stage. He hasn’t changed, and his tounge is still full with lies. So my question is, how do I bring this up with pastors at my gf’s church? She doesn’t like the idea of going to them. She still thinks he completely follows God. But me and others don’t see it at all. And we see him as much as she does. I’ve talk to her about it, and she won’t let me do it, but on the other hand, i kinda don’t want a non repentent sinner leading worship to show off his guitar skills.(p.s. when he leads, he always gloats about himself afterwords, and is not very humble.)
p.s. hes in a band, that advertises being a christian band, but they are completely about themselves, and sell thongs and bras with their logo on it. And one member even left them, cause he didn’t like them claiming to be christians, and doin charity shows, when they really weren’t in their hearts.

Holy $hit!!! You’re Liquefying this poor girl and storing her in 32 ounce containers?

Hey, y’all? What are some sites or Christian forum-oriented sites with great articles that focus on teenage girls dating older men (ie., a Christian 16 yr old girl dating a 20 year old young man)? I tried to go to two forum websites, and they didn’t have any threads on this topic. It’s a topic I’m researching.
True but I want to do further research and reading as a WRITER. Christian article reading that is. Worst-case scenarios and what not.

Any 16-year-old girl is to mature for a 20-year-old ‘man.’ Final answer. No research necessary.

Hey everyone. Okay my boyfriend and I have been dating for around a year and my best friend and my boyfriend absolutely hate each other. Its bad!! Well they steer clear of each other but its not until recently that HUGE problems have been coming up about how much time he is spending with his friends and how much time I am spending with mine.

Well tonight, my boyfriend and I had plans made and all of a sudden he cancels at the last minute to tell me he’s going off with his friends.. Well that hurt and I got mad and then he starts going off about how we should break up because we are always fighting about this stuff. So I have till like Wednesday to save the relationship… Now keep in mind that I need Christian advice. He and I go to church and are devout Christians and I know this is not supposed to happen yet. Just what do I do? Please help!! Thanks so much!

Why does it have to be Christian advice? Your problem isn’t spiritual in nature. Its like saying "Does anyone know a good Christian mechanic?" or "My toilet is backed up and I need good Christian advice on how to unclog it."

That being said, you should attempt to bridge the rift between your boyfriend and your best friend. If these people are important to you and your on going happiness they should be able to get along, if not be friends.

I’m 15, im a christian and i met this guy at my church. after a few months we started dating since then we’ve broken up and gotten back together about 5 times. we were broken up for about a month and we had sex. it was a huge mistake and ive repented and everything and we havent done it since, im aware that he however, doesnt regret it at all. and he even thinks he should stop going to church. we got back together rigth after we had sex and a few days ago he said "what has God really done in my life?" and has said stuff like "its impossible to know that God truly exists you can only hope"
i dont know if im wrong here for getting upset with him about those things.i know God exists because i feel him in my life my life hasnt been fine and dandy since i devoted myself to God but that hasnt changed a thing in my faith. the obvious answer would be to break up with him but i love him way too much to think i could. I just need help because i dont know what to do anymore…any advice?
i should also say that we argue about the stupidest things everyday.
we see eachother and hangout every day and i love hanging out with him… most of the time. he’s said he still believes in God but that he just doesnt think church has done anything for him. he hasnt broken up with me we’ve either agreed on a break or ive broken up with him. i just cant bring myself to break up with him after everything we’ve been through together.and yes, i know it was a mistake to have sex and NO im not still doing it. and yes he has respected that.ive told him before that tehre are only so many times he can say sorry before it doesnt work anymore but he responded to that by not apoligizing when hes wrong anymore. hwe just waits for me to go to him and act like everythigns fine…

First- I’m proud of you for realizing the mistake you made and for not repeating it- that truly requires strength.
Secondly- Give the situation to God. Don’t try to solve your boyfriends problems, because you can’t. I’m sure you hardly even know how to answer his questions. You love him and therefore you want to do what is absolutely best for him- not what will hurt the least but, what is the best, right thing for him.

I am a Christian- I know how you feel but Don’t get upset with him. It is better that he is voicing his thoughts instead of him hiding them and acting like he believes everything he should. One day you would both regret it if he hid everything.

He is young. He is still forming his beliefs. Don’t judge him for that but- get him to someone (like a trusted pastor or Christian adult friend) who can answer his questions.

Meanwhile- search the Bible yourself. Grow strong in your faith and know what you believe. It will be easier for you to fall when he is weak. I won’t tell you to break up with him. But remember- do what is best for him- and keep yourself safe. Because he is questioning God he will not have the same standard about things like sex – that you do. Don’t put yourself in a position where your beliefs and standards are broken down and destroyed.

You can email me if you want.

ill try to make this as short as possible. im 19 my ex boyfriends 19 im a christian my family is my exboyfriend is and his family is. So we started dating 3 years ago and after three years his family decided they dont like me. they made all this stuff up like im not even nice to him and im using him and all this stupid stuff. then they go and tell people. and then when you confront them about how thats not true they say the reason they dont want us together is because they dont have peace and they think God would give them peace if i was the right one for him. and he never stood up for me and what not and so now we are broken up.. which brings me to ask 1 can youre parents know Gods will for the childs life? 2. do you ahve to break up because of your parents? what advice would you give??
we live in Va so no hes not around his parents all the time.. when he lived at home things were fine.. so its not like they even observe him.. and hes still miserable and he did what they said

When you marry the girl/guy you marry the family. No exceptions. I know your not married but same principle. If your family made it clear to you they did not like your boyfriend and you knew that standing up for him would only create friction . What would you do? I know it seems like he should stick up for you and what that says about your love . Unfortunately this is not reality.Blood really is thicker than water. Next you have the issue of why they are being this way. I would look carefully at how you know what they have said. Do other people they talk to tell you what they are saying? Or is your boyfriend saying these things to you about it? The fact is that it sounds like there is more going on here than meets the eye. But it is true that if your folks don’t like who you pick it is hard to see that choice as worth it in the long run.

There is a place on the screen when they pop up that says "click here for abuse". When I click it it sends me to a screen that says to remove program go to start>control panel>add and remove programs>"public messenger". But when I get to add and remove programs, public messenger is not one of the programs. There is nothing even similar to it. I’ve tried e-mailing the site that is sending these pop up ads but it doesn’t seem to matter. I am a Christian and I would be mortified if a friend borrowed my computer and one of these ads popped up! I used to belong to a christian dating site and I’m wondering if that is how this adult dating site got my information. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m tired of seeing women’s boobs popping up every time I check my e-mail. Thanks Stacie

your pc has been infected with spyware
go to www.download.com and download Adaware by Lavasoft and also Spybot Search & Destroy…then go to www.microsoft.com and download the Windows Defender prog…all are free and all will help remove the spyware …if not then you will have to take it to your local pc repair shop and have them do a format and reload of Windows
good luck